Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Honoring Life Changes

Received this yesterday from The DailyOM. I thought it fit nicely with the whole theme of change.

August 18, 2009
Honoring Life Changes
The Wisdom of Fear

Anything worth doing will always have some fear attached to it. For example, having a baby, getting married, changing careers—all of these life changes can bring up deep fears. It helps to remember that this type of fear is good. It is your way of questioning whether you really want the new life these changes will bring. It is also a potent reminder that releasing and grieving the past is a necessary part of moving into the new.

Fear has a way of throwing us off balance, making us feel uncertain and insecure, but it is not meant to discourage us. Its purpose is to notify us that we are at the edge of our comfort zone, poised in between the old life and a new one. Whenever we face our fear, we overcome an inner obstacle and move into new and life-enhancing territory, both inside and out. The more we learn to respect and even welcome fear, the more we will be able to hear its wisdom, wisdom that will let us know that the time has come to move forward, or not. While comfort with fear is a contradiction in terms, we can learn to honor our fear, recognizing its arrival, listening to its intelligence, and respecting it as a harbinger of transformation. Indeed, it informs us that the change we are contemplating is significant, enabling us to approach it with the proper reverence.

You might wish to converse with your fear, plumbing its depths for a greater understanding of the change you are making. You could do this by sitting quietly in meditation and listening or by journaling. Writing down whatever comes up—your worries, your sadness, your excitement, your hopes—is a great way to learn about yourself through the vehicle of fear and to remember that fear almost always comes alongside anything worth doing in your life.


Anonymous Mom said...

This is really great...thanks for sharing it!

Jessica said...

Aw, you are very welcome. The dailyOm always has the best insight! Whether I follow it or not is an entirely different story. lol

Ferd said...

This was very interesting to me.
I have always looked at fear as an emotion given to us by God/nature when we are faced with something potentially dangerous or harmful, so that we can take action for our own survival.
But this adds a very positive element to things, and I'm always for that.
Thanks, Jess! I love the insight!

Jessica said...

Hi Ferd,
I know, right? Same here, but lately I have really been realizing that the opposite is the case sometimes. Knowing that, makes facing fear more manageable and it even becomes a learning experience.